Motherhood has numerous personalised definitions. To be a mother there are two ways. Either to give birth or to adopt a child. A mother and motherhood seem to be same. But they are different in few ways. A child can be raised in any way. It doesn’t need either of the parents or any other guardians. Timely food, clothing and shelter are more than enough. But to make a child a complete human needs motherhood.
Mother is quite a familiar relation for all but a highly responsible position if the person feels it. Sleep less nights, high pitch shouting, colours on walls, wardrobes and clothes and mesmerising smiles. All are part of motherhood. Enjoying every moment of rising child is a boost up for both mother and kid. Of course there is another side of coin, where there are bad moms too.
Kids are neglected or left alone. Every frustration is shown on them. Making intentional negative comments that affect the child confidence and many more. Let us see some bad mom quotes.
1. “Good mothers make all kinds of choices. Making a decision that might sound selfish does not make a woman a bad mother.” — Jada Pinkett Smith
Before everything else we are all humans. So obviously a mother too has got some or the other personal work. At least to have food, water and sleep. Also some important things like career, domestic work too. So making a priority between any two things is not so easy. Unfortunately all except a mother to do every sort of sacrifice. That is not fair. She too have her own life. Try to see in both points of view.
2. “I’m not a good mom; I’m not a bad mom. I’m the mom I am, and I try very hard, and when I fail, that’s okay.” — Kristen Bell
A mother will do whatever she can to make her child feel better. Sometimes that might not seem right to others. That does not mean she is a bad mother. It depends on the child and the mother convenience and feasibility too. So to try to do a thing for the child is important. Even if the trial may fail mother is not failure.
3. “Toxic mothers are more dangerous than absent fathers due to their contagious toxic energy which poisons your soul.” — Trialsandtest
Be it any relationship toxicity will surely have negative affects. The other person can never tolerate it for a longer period. Be it children also. That makes them either to be incapable or rebellistic. Both are not advisable. So a better environment is a must for any relationship. Because any relationship is very fragile and very rigid too.
4. “Every single second of every single day… I don’t know if I feel like a bad mom, but at the end of the day, I’m always plagued with, ’Did I do enough? Should I go in a different direction?’” — Sandra Bullock
That thinking about being a good or bad mother itself is a concern about child. So better to think in child point of view if a better judgement is needed. That makes any mother to be a power house. Take child feed back and later have an analysis in mother version. Balancing both will be always fruitful. That makes mother child bonding even more stronger and better.
5. “Motherhood is messy. And challenging. And crazy. N sleepless. And giving. N still unbelievably beautiful.” — Rachel Martin
Of course it is true to the core. Even more sad part is motherhood is a greatest responsibility. Whatever happens to the child, from family members to doctors and neighbors everyone blames mother. A simple sentence ‘she could be much more careful’. Probably every mother is sick of hearing all this trash. Still no mother complains it is hectic to manage all this. That is the beauty of motherhood.
6. “Dear mom who feels like a failure, you are amazing. Bad things happen, but so do good things. Pick yourself up and remember, this is just a moment in a long journey.” — unknown
Most of the mothers are neutrals. They are neither good nor bad. The point where the kids irritate, surely mother shouts or slaps. If a care, support and encouragement is needed mother would be the first to give. So it is the situational change that happens. Definitely once a child is there, till last breath a mother will try her level best to carry motherhood.
7. “If a good mother is one who loves her child more than anyone else in the world, I am not a good mother. I am, in fact, a bad mother. I love my husband more than I love my children.” — Ayelet Waldman
If given birth, obviously first husband comes and later child. So husband is there before child. Also mostly he will be there even if child goes away. So there is nothing wrong to love husband more than child. It depends entirely on the woman’s priorities. So it is not good to judge whether she is a good mother or bad mother depending on this. It does not mean she doesn’t love her child.
8. “And that’s the insult of it – how always, it comes back to a woman being a ‘good’ mother in the world’s eyes or a ‘bad’ mother, how everything in a woman’s life is funneled through her body between her legs.” — Joyce Carol Oates
Obviously if the umbilical cord is not cut, baby is the part of mother’s body. It is a fact that no one can deny. How can anyone else decide whether a woman is good mother or bad mother? If it is a statement passed by child itself, at least it can be thought of. Who are the third persons to decide a mother goodness? Including family members no one has right to pass such judgements.
9. “One of the darkest, deepest shames so many of us mothers feel nowadays is our fear that we are bad mothers, that we are failing our children and falling far short of our own ideals.” — Ayelet Waldman
Speaking frankly no two persons think and act in same way. There can be the influence of parents on the child. But they too can think individually. If the thoughts and actions in childhood or adolescent stage are not right, they are to be corrected. If they are not right at the middle age, it is useless to correct. That doesn’t mean the mother or father are not right and responsible. They can only show the path. Walking is always done by oneself.
10. ” Every mother I’ve ever met, pretty much without exception, is doing the best job she can ever do.” — Jennifer Weiner
Might be right in many cases but not all cases. There are mothers who leave kids as soon as they are born. It might be a strong reasons but it is not right. There are mothers who are so toxic that the child doesn’t even feel to talk. So no one can decide anything just by seeing. What all seen is not true. Truth is never openly seen.
11. “Being a housewife and a mother is the biggest job in the world, but if it doesn’t interest you, don’t do it – I would have made a terrible mother.” — Katherine Hepburn
Most thankless jobs in the world are two. One is a house wife and other is mother. Initially both are not paid. Later is they are not even noticed. All the domestic work and motherly work are never easy. They seem to be simple but are highly complicated. A small change can cause anything.
In household work every single thing counts a lot. From dusting to cooking all are important. In child care, from feeding to cleaning poop all are to be done with utmost care. Sad part is despite noticing there are many comments on every work.
12. “I want to be a mother who has the original father there. There are a lot of sacrifices a mother makes when she’s raising a child by herself. I saw it when I was growing up, watching all my mother did for me.” — Christina Applegate
If motherhood is handled by single mother it is a big challenge. Initially society keeps a lot of questions. The support both humanly and monetarily will be less. Everything is to be handled by one single woman. People wait to take advantage of her situation. It is a tough fight. It is not that step fathers do not care. But there is a possibility that they are not so concerned.
13. ” Your first obligation as a parent is not to bring chaos into your kids’ lives.” — unknown
Be it any thing childhood will come only once. It is to be the beautiful part in anyone’s life. The parents are the first persons who must try to make it better. No need of hi-fi things or costly gifts. A shoulder to lean a bed time story, a hug or kiss on an achievement are so crucial. To avoid negativity is more important than anything else. There might be hundreds of problems. But make sure your child is not carrying them.