In psychology, attachment is a strong emotional bond that an infant forms with a caregiver (such as a mother) especially when viewed as a basis for normal emotional and social development. In another terms, attachment is the physical connection by which one thing is attached to another.
1. “Attachment is the source of all suffering.” – Buddha
The source of all the suffering is attachment. Being attached with someone is the most dangerous thing. Worldly attachment is the most dangerous for every human being. We all seem to attach to the people we know and people we love. When we are with someone, we build some attachment with them.
We need their support, love and care. We also have some expectations building up inside our minds. When those expectations are not met then, we started to lose faith in them. Attachment comes with a heavy price of suffering.
2. “One should discard attachment to be happy.” – Chanakya
In order to be happy, one should discard attachment. When attachment comes into the play, comes the disappointment. We attach with the people whom we think matches the vibes of yours. Sometimes, it happens that people we are attached with leave.
Leaving behind the people devastated. Attachment is like a virus which infects and leaves with a harmful effect. In order to live the life peacefully, one should be able to discard all the worldly attachment and surrender to the God.
3. “Accept what comes and allow it to leave when it’s time.” – Anonymous
Whatever comes in the life, allow it to come. And when it comes the time for leaving, let it go. Whether it’s a person or any opportunity, allow it to come. Let it come because welcoming the unexpected things is what life is about. In the house of heart, we should welcome everyone.
Let them stay to their heart content and then leave just like a guest leaving the house. We can’t force anyone to stay or extend their visit purpose. Everything has timing. We have to accept what is there in life and we have to accept when they leave.
4. “You only lose what you cling to.” – Buddha
When we cling onto the rope which is leaving from the hand, we tend to lose it. Hanging onto something, is what makes us lose. What we already have in our life is not lost rather what we want is the one which is often lose. We want the things we don’t have and we often cling to it. Being clinging in nature is often what makes the other person lose interest.
5. “Attachment to views is the greatest impediment to the spiritual path.” – Nhat Hanh
The greatest hindrance in the path of spiritual life is attachment. Attachment is a strong emotional bond that is formed between two individuals. It can be between a person and a person. And it can be between a pet and person. It is the state in which person often forgets the other important things.
Having attached to a particular view point is dangerous. In the path of the spiritual world, attachment towards the world is the main hindrance. The person should be free from all the worldly attachment be it father, mother, brother, sister or lover.
6. “The less attached you are, the more peaceful your life is.” – Anonymous
The less attached you are from the people the more peaceful your life is. More people and attachment leads too many difficulties in life. Having quality friends is important than having quantity friends.
The more attachment is there, the more we are engrossed in the life and people, the more we will be distracted in the worldly gains. Attachment is the hindrance and dangerous thing in life. The less attached you are the more peaceful you can enjoy the life.
7. “Attachment leads to jealousy. The shadow of greed that is. Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose.”- Yoda
Attachment leads to the jealousy. When we are attached with someone we often tend to become possessive and jealous when are stuck in the situations. We often want them to be only with us. We became selfish and our greed expands with the passage of time.
The greed overshadows the love and attachment. We should train ourselves to let go of the feelings to love, hatred and jealousy. The fear of losing and feelings of jealousy which comes along with the attachment should be let go.
8. “Drop the idea that attachment and love is one thing. They are enemies. It is attachment that destroys all love.” – Rajneesh
Love and attachment are the two different feelings which people often mistake for one. Attachment is an act of attaching or the state of being attached. It is a connection by feelings of affection. It is driven by how you feel about yourself with the degree of permanence and safety someone gives you.
While love evokes fond feelings and actions towards the other person particularly. In love, the person is the one you have feelings for but in attachment it is replaceable. Attachment can destroy love as they are enemies to each other.
9. “Try not to confuse attachment with love. Attachment is about fear and dependency and has more to do with love of self than love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love because it isn’t about what others can give you because you’re empty. It is about what you can give others because you’re already full.” – Yasmin Mogahed
We should not confuse attachment with love, as they are two different feelings. Attachment is about the fear and dependency. It is more concentrated on the self love. It is being true and honest to oneself while attaching with someone. On the other hand, love loves someone else more than themselves.
Love without the attachment is the purest love because it is not about what others can give you; it’s about what you can give to others. We do not give because we are empty rather we give because we are already full.
10. “Attachment constrains our vision so that we are not able to see things from a wider perspective.” – Dalai Lama
When we are attached with our lover or friend, we often neglect the things of unworthy. Attachment constraints our vision so that we are not able to see things from a wider perspective. We do not see the other perspective of the actions done by that person.
It limits our thinking and creates a boundary in the mind. We do not tend to cross the boundary made by the mind. When the boundary is broken, the person is devastated by the outcomes.
11. “Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go.” – Jackson Kiddard
Attachment, love and jealousy are the emotions which you can’t control. No one can control what they are feeling. The feelings which we can’t control teach us to let go.
When you are not able to control, the only way is to let go it. Letting go is the stronger version of holding onto. The person who lets goes of the attachment, love and jealously which he can’t control, is the strongest of all.
12. “Detach from needing to have things work out a certain way. The universe is perfect and there are no failures. Give yourself the gift of detaching from your worries and trust that everything is happening perfectly.”- Anonymous
Things never work out how you have imagined it to be. This is not in our hands to do. Life is a cycle which goes on and on. Things happen in the circumstantial bases. You should give yourself time and trust the process of the Lord. You should forget all the worries of the world, detached from the attachment and worldly pleasure and give time to yourself.
Believe that universe is perfect and there are no failures. Everything happens for a reason and it is happening because it makes the life more perfect.